I wanted to take a moment to reintroduce myself to you. My blogging journey started 2 years ago, I spent about 6 months learning about content curating and finding interesting topics to blog about and then life hit! Buckle up buttercup, “this is the wildest ride in the wilderness” (bragging points if you know where that saying is from).
Soooo… life hit, what do I mean by that? To put it simply, my ex-husband moved out of our family home and 5 days later I was notified that I would be laid off from a company that I had been with for nearly 12 years and absolutely adored. Talk about having your life turned upside down – phew! There I was, a newly single mother of a 5 year old getting ready to start Kindergarten and a 3 year old. Everyone who knows me always says I am the strongest person they know… I think it is my will and determination to fight and survive. It was the grace of God that kept me sane.
My short-lived blogging journey came to a screeching halt! I am the type of person that becomes recluse when I am overwhelmed and believe me – that was a very overwhelming point in my life. Hindsight is always 20-20, right? I so wish I would have kept up with my blogging back then, it was the perfect time to pour myself into writing, but I just couldn’t. Here I am starting over, from scratch because somehow my former host doesn’t have access to any of my prior posts. I am fairly certain that’s not how the internet works, I know my work is in cyber space somewhere, but I digress.
Surviving Divorce and Overcoming Adversity
Divorce is hard. Period. My ex-husband and I have known each other since high school. No, we weren’t high school sweethearts; we dated for a short time in the 90’s and lost touch when he went away to the U.S. Marine Corps (Oohrah!). Thanks to social media, we reconnected and rekindled our romance, got married, bought a house and had 2 beautiful children. Sounds like the “dream life” doesn’t it? Well, it wasn’t. You see, my ex-husband suffers from mental illness and has issues with anger. I won’t dive too deep into that because I don’t think that his story is mine to tell. No, he never ever laid a finger on me, but abuse isn’t always physical.
My ex has his own stuff to deal with and he is dealing with them; which is great for our children. It took about a solid year for our divorce to be finalized, it was ugly. Let’s be real, the true fight in divorce is always about money… the root of all evil – that’s what it boils down to. It was hard, but I am happy to say that my ex and I have come a very long way and now we are friends and co-parent very well.
Laid-Off and Blindsided
Getting laid off sucks. Period. I was completely blindsided when I got laid off. When I tell you I thought I would retire from this company, I am being so honest. I stayed in the denial phase in the stages of grief for a very long time, probably too long. It was like being dumped by your dream partner or cheated on; there was a feeling of betrayal because I had always been loyal to this company. It hurt, bad. But as the saying goes, time heals all wounds. I’ve moved on with my life and am happy.
It took me 8 months to find another job after being laid off, but I never felt the sense of belonging or true happiness in my gut. You know that feeling, when you just know it’s right. I started a new position in SaaS world in January (which I love!), but then… 2020… ugh. Oh and by the way, I work in the travel industry, one of the hardest hit industries in this global pandemic. Needless to say, I was furloughed in April, but this time is different…
I am taking this break with an open mind and open heart. Honestly, with everything being shut down, I don’t know how I would have juggled the single mom life and a new dimension of working in this crisis. Everything happens for a reason, or so they say. I am grateful for the time I have to spend with my children right now and we are just taking everything day by day.
That is our story in a nutshell! I told you it was a whirlwind ☺️ I am looking forward to continuing to share our lives with you.